Eeyore's Got Nuthin'

Today I got an email from that one friend I have whom I haven't seen in years but seems to have the innate ability to call me out on things that no one around me seems to notice. I guess some things are clearer from further away. Anyway, she essentially told me that I was arrogant--well, that the things I had written to her were arrogant.
This disturbs me greatly, as Amelia tends to be very keen on such things.
And, looking back (with the help of another one of those very keen friends), they really were.
At the time I was in this spot where life just seemed to suck; I don't see that as overwhelmingly negative or arrogant; it just genuinely sucked. However, I was (and am) in horseblinders in a way. All I could see was the stuff that was flying at me, weighing me down. I saw nothing else. And I'm not saying what I felt was correct or proper or that she isn't right, but it's still a kick in the crotch.
The conclusion is I've lost the ability to see past my own nose, don't seem to see anything positive in any situations and have taken a liking to wallowing longer than need be. I say that as fact, not to be negative or to make it seem more overwhelming than it is. I do believe there is a time and a place to wallow, but one must stop wallowing before one becomes one of the pigs themselves. All that being said, I need to learn to identify my negativity in situations, or at the very least acknowledge the positive. So yeah, all this shit happens--what else? How are the people around me? What am I doing to enrich or fulfill or love them? How am I serving? How have I been used? How do I accept the love that is given me? Puppies and glitter?
Of course I am a writer, and part of being a writer is obsessive self-analysis and/or self-depreciation, but still, there's a line and if I am ever to be anything in life I need to stop thinking I deserve everything. And learn to see that even the bleakest times have the best opportunities. Or something inspirational like that.